There was a time when I thought Attachment Parenting (AP) was stupid. Yep, I did. I bought into the mainstream ideas spewed by parenting magazines, mommy forums, and pediatricians. I agreed with the idea that AP makes babies clingy, less independent, spoiled, and fussy, even though I was a first time mom with zero experience in any form of parenting style. Boy was I wrong! I raised my first two babies very mainstream. I used disposable diapers, bottles, formula supplementation, a nursery with a crib, cry it out (CIO), strict feeding schedule, and strollers. Hear me now. . .this is is important: I am not saying there is anything wrong with any of these things. What I want to do is tell you how my life has changed since become an AP mom.
Babywearing? What in the world is babywearing? Yeah…I’ve heard it so many times! More often though, people see me out and about and will ask me about how my baby doesn’t fall off of me when he’s “tied on like that”, or “doesn’t that hurt your back?” No, no it doesn’t. It’s pretty funny! They’ve never seen anything like it before and they are curious. I’ll admit I had never heard of babywearing until I was pregnant with my 3rd baby. I had been a babywearer with my first two, but had never heard the term. With My first, I used a soft structured carrier, the kind you buckle onto yourself and the baby faces you belly to belly. I didn’t like it very much. It was alright, but it wasn’t working very well for me. That may have been in part because I had no resource from which to get help like I do now. With my second baby, I used a peanut shell sling. I didn’t know how to use it well and it was hard to adjust. He leaned back too far in it and I always felt like I had to have a hand on him to keep him from falling out. There is nothing wrong with these two kinds of carriers AT ALL! There are many different types of carriers, and mommas have preferences based on their own comfort, the size and age of their baby or toddler, and where they are going to be using the carrier.
I’m what people around here call “crunchy”. It’s a synonym of “granola”, used to describe a lifestyle that revolves around natural things. That includes a whole host of different things, such as natural medicine, natural baby feeding (breastfeeding and baby led weaning), natural eating (anything from clean eating, whole foods, organic, to gardening and fermenting), natural birth, attachment parenting, babywearing, cloth diapering, et al. There are differing degrees of “crunchiness”. There are some of us who do a few things, but not that many. Some are more middle of the road, and others still are all out full crunchy. Some people like to call us “hippies”. I’ve never liked that word personally, because it evokes in my mind visions of the 1960s, with all the “make love not war”, free love, dope smoking crowd. That’s not me. At all. So I much prefer crunchy over hippie. Sometimes my husband calls me a hippie just to get a rise out of me. He’s a big agitator, that man!